I've been thinking about it for days, and I can't decide on ONE thing. One thing that I want people to know? One thing that needs to be said out loud? It's impossible for me! Instead, there are a million things - so many experiences and thoughts and feelings that need to be shared. So many 'helpful hints' for those families watching this happen to their sons and daughters, sisters and brothers. So many things...
But for today - I will settle. One thing...and it's for those families and friends watching this happen - watching their loved ones lose a child.
Make a conscience decision about who you are going to be for this mother and father - this family. Are you going to be supportive? Are you going to give them what they need? Are you going to worry about how this impacts them or about how it impacts you?
And if you DECIDE to worry about yourself...don't be so shocked when they have to let you go.
If you DECIDE that your comfort is more important than supporting them...don't be surprised when they can't be with you.
When you DECIDE that grieving with them is too hard...don't be taken aback when they don't want to share their joy with you either.
Make your decision. And be willing to live with it.